Have you ever been bewildered when a friend, boss in the office, parent, spouse, colleague or sibling said something really upsetting, unkind, cruel and hurtful? Or did you get an attitude from someone, even when there was no underlying problem between you and the person?
Did you roll your eyes and wonder.😊😊😊 Dahh! Where on earth did that come from? Or did you say, wetin dey pepper this person for body sef? Hahaha!
Anyway, truth be told, it is mostly damaged, sad, heartbroken and hurting people that stop at nothing to offend and hurt others with their words and actions. The next occasion, someone says spiteful words to your face, in the absence or presence of underlying disagreements, just understand that their words and actions have deep roots, emanating from a place of bitterness, pain, anger and frustration. They do it on purpose, to feel good about themselves and ignorantly or unconsciously, sometimes.
Consequently, its often a natural response for us to match spiteful words for same, hurtful words for hurtful words and action for action. It is absolutely natural to feel wounded and vengeful or strike back like a wounded lion, get caught up in the reactions and even go overboard in response to people's action.
On the other hand, as a rule of thumb, among other things to do, you can choose your words carefully, by pausing before you speak. My mother calls it THE POWER OF CHEWING YOUR WORDS
. It’s been saving life since nineteen gbegede😁😁😁😁😊😊😊. Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life. This way, you remain a champion and conquer the power of self by placing value on them and telling them who is more mature.
Remember the saying, in the garden of your life, you have to pull some weeds, sure, but mainly focus on planting flowers.
Truely yours!
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