SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE DEMANDS WORK...

FROM DINMA’s TABLE...

A Successful Marriage demands WORK!
HOW MUCH WORK ARE YOU WILLING TO PUT IN TIRELESSLY?

It is not enough to Pray.
It is not enough to fast and cast out demons.
It is not enough to verbally profess it.
It is not enough to desire or want it.
It is not enough to be stupendously proficient to grind on different rounds of sex.
It is not enough to be financially capable.
It is not enough to be educated.
It is not enough to be a “good guy” or “good lady”.
It is not a enough to be seen as “Husband material” or “Wife material”.
It is not enough to have a cute face or body.
HOW MUCH WORK ARE YOU WILLING AND READY TO PUT IN?

How willing and ready are you to love  unconditionally?
How willing and ready are you to submit and respect even against your own will and liberty?
How willing and ready are you to compromise and shift buttons to please your spouse?
How willing and ready are  you ready to share and partner in ideas, opinions and decisions?
How willing and ready are you to selflessly give and sacrifice?
How willing and ready are you to understand and overlook the irrationality and mumbo jumbo acts of your spouse?
How willing and ready are you to be naked, honest and unashamed?
How willing and ready are you to apologize and forgive countless times?
How willing and ready are you to always find attraction beyond flaws and imperfections?
How willing and ready are you to remain enclosed and unavailable to prying hawks  in the face of difficulties and failed expectations?
How willing and ready are you to stay faithful, loyal and true amidst consistent temptations?
How willing and ready are you to stay believing in the face of trials?
How willing and ready are you to remain Consistent doing all you should do till the wrinkles of time?
HOW WILLING AND READY ARE YOU?

A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE DEMANDS WORK!
And it begins with the right MINDSET, DECISION , DETERMINATION and ACTION!
Truly, it is not easy BUT IT IS POSSIBLE!
MARRIAGE CAN BE ENJOYED!

#GodlyCoupleAssociation

Written by DinmaTheGifted

THE RARELY REVEALED BITTERED TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE

FROM DINMA’s TABLE👉👉 THE RARELY REVEALED BITTER TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE! 😩😩

The institution of marriage is very vast, deep and double sided. Marriage is two- faced but many couples only hold light to the admirable part of being married. This is what most of us do. We only show the world a pictorial representation of our bliss and perfection.
The “other side “ of marriage is rarely talked about or buttressed that is why people go into marriage for the wrong reasons , with the wrong mindset and with unrealistic expectations.
A few months ago, a friend of mine who was just eight months into marriage tearfully told me”Dinma , no one told me marriage can be this draining” and guess what, SHE WAS RIGHT!
Honestly, The unfiltered behind-the -scene world of marriage can be quite spooky. It can consternate your resolution and make you develop cold feet that it is why IT IS NECESSARY TO BE MENTALLY PREPARED AND EMOTIONALLY READY FOR MARRIAGE!

WHAT ARE THESE BITTER TRUTHS?
I would be revealing some hard truths about marriage even though they are not limited to those. You may experience more or less😩😩. HMMmmm..That sounds eerie right? but  not to worry, wih the right mindset, you are going to be fine. Trust me, YOU WOULD BE FINE!

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•MARRIAGE IS NOT A SAFE HAVEN!
Marriage is no hiding place from pressure,frustration ,hurt, lack and poverty alleviation. If you go into marriage to run away from any of those, you may battle with suicidal thoughts eventually.

•MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPENSATION!
Do not make marriage binding on someone you helped , assisted or was there for . On the other end, do not accept the marriage proposal of someone simply because he or she was generous to you. Marriage shouldn’t be your act of gratitude because you gonna live in deprivation and self denial for a long time.

MARRIAGE IS NOT ALL BLISS.
Simply put, There are days  you will cry, yell at each other, say hurtful things to each other, grow cold on each other and may not stand the sight of each other. There are gonna be difficult days that it would take divine strength to pull through. Yes it happens boo. Be prepared.

•FINANCE IS VERY IMPORTANT $ NECESSARY.
It is good  to have prospects and ambitions but  money at hand saves you a lot of mental stress and emotional struggle. Marriage is easier to enjoy when there are no bills pilling in the corner.

•THERE ARE TIMES YOU MAY FEEL LESS APPRECIATED regardless the effort you put in so it is encouraged to make up your mind to do what you ought to do without expecting gratitude and appraisals in return.

•THERE ARE SOME DISAGREEMENTS YOU DONT EVER GET TO TALLY.
It is either you learn to accept the subject matter or you overlook it .😏

• YOU CANNOT CHANGE YOUR PARTNER. You  may only be able to influence his/her  decision to change or act better.

•YOU MAY GET TO LIVE WITH SOME IRRITATIONS FOR A LONG TIME! These  irritations may vary from belief to behavioral acts .It could be that he/she snores, he/she is dirty, he/she is lazy, his/her eating habit sucks, his/her ideology/stand is weird. They are just too many to mention. BE READY!

•LOVE DOESNT ALWAYS KEEP YOU MARRIED.
As you climb the ladder counting years together as man and wife, you will begin to see other reasons and factors that influence your decision to remain married beyond love. This is weird but very true.

•INACCESSIBLE  LOVE AND ATTRACTION.
There are times when the love and attraction for each other cannot be accessed that is why it is advised that couples constantly wear and find a new charm in each other. Couples may naturally loose their initial point of attraction as the years unfold. The woman may loose her beautiful figure and body to pregnancy and nursing the kids. The man may  act foolish or also loose his physical charm , attribute or achievement that got his wife attracted initially. What to do? Find a new charm in your spouse.

•IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO.
Having a successful marriage is the responsibility of both parties. It takes two to tango. It is not in the hands of the man or woman to manage the home. They must jointly put in work to having a balance and an enjoyable marriage.

•EXTERNAL INTERVENTION.
Contrary to the general assertion of “not involving a third party”, sometimes, what a marriage needs is an external intervention to give it a boost from its low moments.That is why YOUR MODELS MATTER A LOT. Who you listen to or look up goes a long way to mend or mar your marriage. Be careful.

•LOSS OF ONESELF.
You  may loose yourself in the cause of marriage and raising a family that is why as much as partnership is advised ,individualism is also highly encouraged.

To BE CONTINUED.....STAY TUNED.

Written by 

DinmaTheGifted.

Gun in my right hand,
Smouldering weed held between my left index and middle fingers,
Divinity I hide behind me,
I face the reality of revenge.
Revenge is sweet
Especially when you become the giver of mercy
And to forgive, becomes a choice to you.
But you won't be god forever,
It's a matter of one pulled trigger,
Then behind bars shall become a home until death does the parting.

USELESSNESS OF LIFE

I just noticed that in life, anything that scares u will make u laugh some day. The most valuable will some day become the less valuable, because in the year 2002, Nokia 3310 was

N75,000 with N40,000 Econet sim card, but today its no more available  and the sim is free.
In 2003, Samsung c100 was N48,000 and u must recharge with at least N1,500 airtime every two weeks or else your sim will be blocked.

Today it's no more and u don't even need to recharge to retain your sim card.
In 2004, Sendo X with camera and 16mb memory card (one of the cheapest mp3 enabled phone back then) was N39,000, today, the phone doesn't even exist anymore!
In 2006, Sagem myv55 was N30,000, today it's no more.

In 2008, blackberry bold2 was N135,000, today blackberry is no more producing bold 2,...
So my friend, if you haven't used a blackberry porch, HTC smart phones, android Phones, iPads, iPhones, Playbook or Nokia 808, don't worry!
Just wait and see because before the end of 2020, our children will be using them as toys.
Be Patient.

Volkswagen Beattle was the most expensive car in the 80s.

THINK!!!

See the kinda of depreciation it experienced within a short period.
BEAUTY FADES!

WEALTH can also be ERASED.
With time, everything depreciate, Just study, work hard, have a great plan for the future.
There is time 4 everything.

Written by SirUBONG DAVID

PRAYER OF A HUSTLER

No time for phoné, Na pigin go sure pass. 👇👇👇

Baba God, abeg make e no be you like say I dey disturb,
If to say things clear, I for no need wiper o.

I no wan ask why life hard like this because you Don create am be say you Don create am,
And Na here we dey so.
Person dey hustle everyday to make sure say small money go still remain wey we go drop inside kolo after we Don commot even miscellaneous
But now, e be like say Na people like us dem dey do ijebu garri for.

Worry Don kill me still bring me back to life.
No be like this I plan buy Range Rover for my papa and mama o.
Na money wey no dey make me and my girlfriend dey always debate o
Dey say person like me wey dey mole more than 15wraps no be man. (if you know you know)

Baba God, Na up you dey dey watch o,
Na stubborn we stubborn, we no dey rob o
Yes, we know say mad man self dey carry dreadlocks,
But Na decision Na im make all man different.

Sake of say make we no carry metal Na im make us dey burn leaf o,
To dey cool ourself down until you return back from your leave o.
We know say e go bad if we turn bad,
But abeg forgive us if Las Las we decide to Jack bull for horn,
You know say no be like this we take start,
Na the same condition make crayfish bend.

No condition dey permanent,

But this our own con dey be like Hausa man perfume.
Abeg Baba, e no go take you anything to put me where go favor me,
I Don tire to dey feel like one prodigal son.
Na beg I dey beg, I no do Shakara.

Thank you.

#IamPensWorld