FROM DINMA’s TABLE👉👉 THE RARELY REVEALED BITTER TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE! 😩😩
The institution of marriage is very vast, deep and double sided. Marriage is two- faced but many couples only hold light to the admirable part of being married. This is what most of us do. We only show the world a pictorial representation of our bliss and perfection.
The “other side “ of marriage is rarely talked about or buttressed that is why people go into marriage for the wrong reasons , with the wrong mindset and with unrealistic expectations.
A few months ago, a friend of mine who was just eight months into marriage tearfully told me”Dinma , no one told me marriage can be this draining” and guess what, SHE WAS RIGHT!
Honestly, The unfiltered behind-the -scene world of marriage can be quite spooky. It can consternate your resolution and make you develop cold feet that it is why IT IS NECESSARY TO BE MENTALLY PREPARED AND EMOTIONALLY READY FOR MARRIAGE!
WHAT ARE THESE BITTER TRUTHS?
I would be revealing some hard truths about marriage even though they are not limited to those. You may experience more or less😩😩. HMMmmm..That sounds eerie right? but not to worry, wih the right mindset, you are going to be fine. Trust me, YOU WOULD BE FINE!
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•MARRIAGE IS NOT A SAFE HAVEN!
Marriage is no hiding place from pressure,frustration ,hurt, lack and poverty alleviation. If you go into marriage to run away from any of those, you may battle with suicidal thoughts eventually.
•MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPENSATION!
Do not make marriage binding on someone you helped , assisted or was there for . On the other end, do not accept the marriage proposal of someone simply because he or she was generous to you. Marriage shouldn’t be your act of gratitude because you gonna live in deprivation and self denial for a long time.
MARRIAGE IS NOT ALL BLISS.
Simply put, There are days you will cry, yell at each other, say hurtful things to each other, grow cold on each other and may not stand the sight of each other. There are gonna be difficult days that it would take divine strength to pull through. Yes it happens boo. Be prepared.
•FINANCE IS VERY IMPORTANT $ NECESSARY.
It is good to have prospects and ambitions but money at hand saves you a lot of mental stress and emotional struggle. Marriage is easier to enjoy when there are no bills pilling in the corner.
•THERE ARE TIMES YOU MAY FEEL LESS APPRECIATED regardless the effort you put in so it is encouraged to make up your mind to do what you ought to do without expecting gratitude and appraisals in return.
•THERE ARE SOME DISAGREEMENTS YOU DONT EVER GET TO TALLY.
It is either you learn to accept the subject matter or you overlook it .😏
• YOU CANNOT CHANGE YOUR PARTNER. You may only be able to influence his/her decision to change or act better.
•YOU MAY GET TO LIVE WITH SOME IRRITATIONS FOR A LONG TIME! These irritations may vary from belief to behavioral acts .It could be that he/she snores, he/she is dirty, he/she is lazy, his/her eating habit sucks, his/her ideology/stand is weird. They are just too many to mention. BE READY!
•LOVE DOESNT ALWAYS KEEP YOU MARRIED.
As you climb the ladder counting years together as man and wife, you will begin to see other reasons and factors that influence your decision to remain married beyond love. This is weird but very true.
•INACCESSIBLE LOVE AND ATTRACTION.
There are times when the love and attraction for each other cannot be accessed that is why it is advised that couples constantly wear and find a new charm in each other. Couples may naturally loose their initial point of attraction as the years unfold. The woman may loose her beautiful figure and body to pregnancy and nursing the kids. The man may act foolish or also loose his physical charm , attribute or achievement that got his wife attracted initially. What to do? Find a new charm in your spouse.
•IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO.
Having a successful marriage is the responsibility of both parties. It takes two to tango. It is not in the hands of the man or woman to manage the home. They must jointly put in work to having a balance and an enjoyable marriage.
•EXTERNAL INTERVENTION.
Contrary to the general assertion of “not involving a third party”, sometimes, what a marriage needs is an external intervention to give it a boost from its low moments.That is why YOUR MODELS MATTER A LOT. Who you listen to or look up goes a long way to mend or mar your marriage. Be careful.
•LOSS OF ONESELF.
You may loose yourself in the cause of marriage and raising a family that is why as much as partnership is advised ,individualism is also highly encouraged.
To BE CONTINUED.....STAY TUNED.
Written by
DinmaTheGifted.
The institution of marriage is very vast, deep and double sided. Marriage is two- faced but many couples only hold light to the admirable part of being married. This is what most of us do. We only show the world a pictorial representation of our bliss and perfection.
The “other side “ of marriage is rarely talked about or buttressed that is why people go into marriage for the wrong reasons , with the wrong mindset and with unrealistic expectations.
A few months ago, a friend of mine who was just eight months into marriage tearfully told me”Dinma , no one told me marriage can be this draining” and guess what, SHE WAS RIGHT!
Honestly, The unfiltered behind-the -scene world of marriage can be quite spooky. It can consternate your resolution and make you develop cold feet that it is why IT IS NECESSARY TO BE MENTALLY PREPARED AND EMOTIONALLY READY FOR MARRIAGE!
WHAT ARE THESE BITTER TRUTHS?
I would be revealing some hard truths about marriage even though they are not limited to those. You may experience more or less😩😩. HMMmmm..That sounds eerie right? but not to worry, wih the right mindset, you are going to be fine. Trust me, YOU WOULD BE FINE!
👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇
•MARRIAGE IS NOT A SAFE HAVEN!
Marriage is no hiding place from pressure,frustration ,hurt, lack and poverty alleviation. If you go into marriage to run away from any of those, you may battle with suicidal thoughts eventually.
•MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPENSATION!
Do not make marriage binding on someone you helped , assisted or was there for . On the other end, do not accept the marriage proposal of someone simply because he or she was generous to you. Marriage shouldn’t be your act of gratitude because you gonna live in deprivation and self denial for a long time.
MARRIAGE IS NOT ALL BLISS.
Simply put, There are days you will cry, yell at each other, say hurtful things to each other, grow cold on each other and may not stand the sight of each other. There are gonna be difficult days that it would take divine strength to pull through. Yes it happens boo. Be prepared.
•FINANCE IS VERY IMPORTANT $ NECESSARY.
It is good to have prospects and ambitions but money at hand saves you a lot of mental stress and emotional struggle. Marriage is easier to enjoy when there are no bills pilling in the corner.
•THERE ARE TIMES YOU MAY FEEL LESS APPRECIATED regardless the effort you put in so it is encouraged to make up your mind to do what you ought to do without expecting gratitude and appraisals in return.
•THERE ARE SOME DISAGREEMENTS YOU DONT EVER GET TO TALLY.
It is either you learn to accept the subject matter or you overlook it .😏
• YOU CANNOT CHANGE YOUR PARTNER. You may only be able to influence his/her decision to change or act better.
•YOU MAY GET TO LIVE WITH SOME IRRITATIONS FOR A LONG TIME! These irritations may vary from belief to behavioral acts .It could be that he/she snores, he/she is dirty, he/she is lazy, his/her eating habit sucks, his/her ideology/stand is weird. They are just too many to mention. BE READY!
•LOVE DOESNT ALWAYS KEEP YOU MARRIED.
As you climb the ladder counting years together as man and wife, you will begin to see other reasons and factors that influence your decision to remain married beyond love. This is weird but very true.
•INACCESSIBLE LOVE AND ATTRACTION.
There are times when the love and attraction for each other cannot be accessed that is why it is advised that couples constantly wear and find a new charm in each other. Couples may naturally loose their initial point of attraction as the years unfold. The woman may loose her beautiful figure and body to pregnancy and nursing the kids. The man may act foolish or also loose his physical charm , attribute or achievement that got his wife attracted initially. What to do? Find a new charm in your spouse.
•IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO.
Having a successful marriage is the responsibility of both parties. It takes two to tango. It is not in the hands of the man or woman to manage the home. They must jointly put in work to having a balance and an enjoyable marriage.
•EXTERNAL INTERVENTION.
Contrary to the general assertion of “not involving a third party”, sometimes, what a marriage needs is an external intervention to give it a boost from its low moments.That is why YOUR MODELS MATTER A LOT. Who you listen to or look up goes a long way to mend or mar your marriage. Be careful.
•LOSS OF ONESELF.
You may loose yourself in the cause of marriage and raising a family that is why as much as partnership is advised ,individualism is also highly encouraged.
To BE CONTINUED.....STAY TUNED.
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